Hmmmm … Sorry Eric, I think you’re in the minority as a Women’s Rugby Hater.

Fellow bloggers Katy and Emily are fixin’ to brawl in response to the letter written in to Rugby Magazine that I posted here yesterday.

Emily even wrote to Mr. Seiler, the man who is “not fond of women’s rugby” and he wrote her back. You can see his response at Katy’s blog. Here’s a piece of it:

Do I think women should play rugby? No.

Do I think women have a right to play rugby? Yes.

Having said this, perhaps now you may be willing to understand where I’m coming from.

Rugby Magazine’s adoption of women’s rugby is a relatively recent occurrence. It was only in the mid or late 80’s that the periodical took on women’s coverage, and there was an immediate percentage of readers like myself who did not care for this. I don’t know if you are aware of this, but there are certain things that men like to do in the company of men alone. Sports have always been a venue for this primal need to ‘rough-house’ it away from the women folk. For me, in my life, being a rugby player has always been a sacred testament to things masculine…and so…women’s rugby is a affront to what I hold most dear about the game. Does this mean women have no right to play it? Of course not. But does your right to play it mean I don’t have a right ignore it? Again, of course not.

I would be very pleased if I could completely ignore the entire phenomenon of women’s rugby. This however is hard to do when your once favorite periodical is devoting ever increasing coverage.

So Mr. Seiler feels that women’s rugby defiles an important aspect of his masculinity. You know, because women only play rugby to be more masculine. Or we play because we only want to make sure that men aren’t doing something without us and we want to steal your thunder (It totally worked for the right to vote and now rugby, so the glass ceiling and a female president gotta be just around the corner!)

Seriously, Seiler, I just want to play. I just want to be outside on a grassy field with 14 of my closest friends playing a sport I love.

So, Seiler’s right. He has a right to ignore and dislike it. And we all have the right and opportunity to play our sport.

This will be my last post concerning Mr. Seiler’s letter. Because I also have the right to ignore him and his thoughts on women’s rugby.

And since I’m such a big fan of men’s rugby, as well as all of my wonderful male friends, coaches, sometime teammates, and my very wonderful boyfriend, I am completely sure of the fact that Mr. Seiler and other people (because women think this way too sometimes) are in the minority.

And the best way to voice your opinion in response to Mr. Seiler and his ilk is to keep playing, keep promoting your team and our sport.

So … Thanks Mr. Seiler. Because of you, I’m a little more excited for my spring season.

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5 responses to “Hmmmm … Sorry Eric, I think you’re in the minority as a Women’s Rugby Hater.

  1. Anonymous

    Your letter made this week’s edition of the Philadelphia Weekly, thank you Blondie!


  2. Just call me coach....

    I completely support this man’s right to think and say whatever he wants.

    Whats worries me is that this attitude really and truly isn’t about sport. Reams of research show that playing teams sports develops leadership, and that leadership directly equates to success in politics and business (which directly equate to higher pay).

    Thank god for Title IX, thank for for all the wonderful men out there who support and love the women’s game, thank god for the IOC requiring gender equity, just basically thank god that this man is just an opinion-haver, not a decision-maker.

  3. Vincent

    Thanks for posting this – very useful to help me understand how dinosaurs think(?!) – I sometimes meet them as I build support and systems for junior girls rugby in my part of England.

    The dumb thing is that whilst (in England at least) male clubs are struggling to grow, building female membership is an open door and a (relatively) easy financial win….

  4. Anonymous

    In my “quick to respond” mode I wrote this to my friend who works for rugby mag

    I think it’s in this months issue of Rugby Mag where that dumb ass guy is all like “you guys cover too much women’s rugby, I’m going to cry about it”
    What an ass. If he actually looked at any issue besides um, the one that covered the women’s world cup, he’d see that this is so not true.
    And I’m sure he thinks that you guys should make a mag called women’s rugby but that the men’s rugby mag should just be called rugby because its obvious that rugby means men’s rugby.
    I hate people like that and want to kick their frickin ass.

    I’m happy that someone made an educated reply to him, as mine was written in haste.

  5. OBG

    Mr. Seiler talks about rights. Rights to play, rights to ignore. And, he’s right. He has a right to stop buying the magazine as well.

    That’s what’s interesting to me. Rugby Magazine, presumably, doesn’t cover (or not cover depending on your perspective) the women’s game because it’s the right thing to do. They do it because it’s a free market. The market dictates.

    And, I think, that same argument is given as to why we don’t see Saturday big-channel coverage of women’s collegiate sports. It’s men’s football and basketball. Because that’s what the market is saying. And it’s not saying rugby, either male or female.

    Loving rugby comes from many aspects. Blondie says she “just wants to play” with 14 of her closest friends on a grassy field. Most, probably all, share that. For Mr. Seiler, it mostly ends there. It’s his outlet. His male outlet.

    For others, including me, it goes beyond. It’s a little bit of chaos theory and the challenge to figure out the best way to create space and then to use it. That transcends gender. That is the game. Perhaps the creation and use of space are different given the differences in physical makeup, but the concept is the same.

    So, I’m one guy among many, I’m sure, who love women’s rugby not because it’s women’s rugby, but because it’s rugby.

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